It is a prime practice that, after a win as human beings we like to have celebratory chants and dances in recognition to the milestones we have bested. It is even tens-fold better if humans (strangers or the known) can party with us as we love the day away. Good results have a way of metamorphosing our frowns into smiles but you know what isn’t? That smile being washed away because we were made to feel inadequate.
There are situations in life where circumstances or people can make us feel like we are D students applying to Harvard University. P.S Harvard accepts nothing short of a genius.
Now there has been events, that make us feel in-genius, one such event is a heart break. When we fall in love, we disregard talks of how it didn’t work for others and proceed to imagine ways it will miraculously work for us. After all, our actions will be different from those who have tried this partnership before. Innocently, we love with all of our hearts, never stopping to question anything that doesn’t add up, then one morning our joy is stolen. The lipstick on his shirt, the receipts in his pocket, the tall muscular man she calls her third cousin, and you sit there and wonder, “how could I have never guessed it?, it was right there in my face.”
Then a series of self doubt and pain follows, and you vow to never let another person make you feel so stupid. Love is stupid and you want no affiliation, because the last time you fell in love, the aftermath made you feel like you were a D student applying to Harvard.
By the way, anyone thinking of hanging out with a self-actualized person, yeah, people who know the ins and outs of their higher and lower mind, people who use their quiet time in meditation as that helps them recognize their scattered thoughts and they can then re-arrange them in order of importance, let me give you a heads-up, its going to be educative but at first, realizing that all this time you knew little of yourself, and that your own thoughts have been your enemy, will hit you like a detonated bomb.
Whether we know it or not, like it or not, admit it or not, we spend a huge amount of time talking to ourselves. Alone in the washroom, taking a bath, reading, the words we use on ourselves can hurt us. A self-defeating monologue looks something like this, “am not smart enough,” “Am stupid,” “Its never going to work out for me,”. It’s not healthy. Our own thoughts can make us feel unqualified, like we are D students applying to the one of the most prestigious universities in the world.
It would not be life if we did not have somebody reminding us of how other people are waaaay better than us.
‘oh so you wanna have a career in rap, I legit think the only amazing rapper in the world is X(X being anyone who you think is a awesome rapper.). No-one can ever top that.”
They are subtly suggesting that it isn’t going to work out boo-boo. Hurtful, I think. Its funny how in people’s eyes actually that they can never be anyone who is good enough for anything.
(A dark skin exists)
Critiques: You are too dark for modelling.
(A light skin exists)
Critiques: Why always a lighter skinned girl? Let’s give to a dark skinned one.
There is forever going to be people who think we are not good enough for success, just don’t that person be yourself. Choice of words from people who may not like, even defeat can often make one question their competence, their character , like you don’t belong. Like you are a D student applying to Harvard. Your never going to get in. It for the chosen few.
This is not a counselling session, it’s a,,, okay you got me. But I have got a valid point, of all the people who come after us, tearing us to the ground, don’t do it to yourself. Don’t let current circumstances make you feel in-genius and not qualified.